How to separate from parents and husband they are emotionally abusive

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YOU NEED TO FOLLOW THE BELOW GIVEN GUIDELINES:

Admit fully to what they have done.

Stop making excuses and blaming.

Make amends.

Accept responsibility and recognize that abuse is a choice.

Identify the patterns of controlling behavior they use.

Identify the attitudes that drive their abuse.

Accept that overcoming abusiveness is a decades-long process — not declaring themselves “cured.”

Not demanding credit for improvements they’ve made.

Not treating improvements as vouchers to be spent on occasional acts of abuse (ex. “I haven’t done anything like this in a long time, so it’s not a big deal).

Develop respectful, kind, supportive behaviors.

Carry their weight and sharing power.

Change how they act in heated conflicts.

Accept the consequences of their actions (including not feeling sorry for themselves about the consequences, and not blaming their partner or children for them).

If you face few of following behaviors, you need professional help and it’s a possibility of emotionally abusive relationship:

Person feels extreme possessiveness or constant jealousy. Person would like to control all aspects of your life and through threats or violence try to assert dominance over you. Small arguments tends to escalate physical abuse between both of you over day to day conversations and due to their manipulation tactics you start justifying the abuse and start believing you’re the problem.
In the initial of relationship, person keep pressurizing for immediate commitment. Person demeans you, your achievements, your hopes and dreams. Person makes you feel that you are always wrong and whatever decisions you made are wrong. Whatever you do, it’s never enough and right for the person. They neglect you to punish you and may have unrealistic expectations.
It’s good if a couple spends quality time together but the problem starts when person (your spouse) isolates you from family and friends. Even person had a problem with whatever you do with your spare time or to make yourself happy like exercise, car, phone, Family, Friends etc.
Person won’t accept own faults and blames you or others. They play the victim and blame you for everything like their problems, failures and unhappiness. They always point out faults in you and your weaknesses. They rarely say sorry.
Person mostly disregards your opinion, needs and ideas and always expects you to serve and obey. They may try to control you and want you to take permission to make decisions or go out somewhere. They may try to manage the finances like how you spend money.
Person keeps criticizing you n use vulnerable points about your past and makes you feel bad about yourself. They may humiliate you n put you down. They may call you names or bully you and make fun of you in front of others. They may use negative remarks to frighten you but won’t take others laughing at them.
Person may have sudden mood swings. They may not show empathy and mostly emotionally unavailable. They don’t care your feelings. They may deny for their behavior whenever confronted.
Person is never happy whatever you do and you go out of the way to make person happy. To keep the peace in the relationship, you may stay silent, whenever you are angry.
Peron is cruel to others espl. children and animals and may have a history of hitting in the past. Person manipulates you in unwanted sex or may deny for sex to manipulate and control you.

Advocate Kishan Dutt Kalaskar LawRato