I am a married woman with two children, elder son 18 years and younger daughter 12 years. It was arr

I am a married woman with two children, elder son 18 years and younger daughter 12 years. It was arrange marriage 20 years back, my husband works as a central government employee. he has been always dictative, argumentative and whimsical by nature. His mother's dislike and hatred about me and her instigations had led us to separation 11 years back. I had to lodge a police complaint against him for hitting my father in a public place although we both had sent a notice to each other through the city's top lawyers and i was trying for out of court settlement as I had conceived for my second daughter by that time. inspite of all this, we reunited, because he came to take me though he did not allow me to keep any contact with my parents for 6 years. Now since last 3 years, he is back to his nature, sadly all this harassment he is giving to my son in his most important times of career. Is there any solution for reconciliation keeping my self respect intact. I am a private employee.