How to extend date for second motion

Me and my wife filed for MCD in Aug 2019 and court has given date of Feb 2020 for second motion.I need suggestions on following parts 1) How can i seek extension for filling of second motion 2) On what grounds I can seek extension 3) If i appear infront of judge on asked date and request Judge that I need some more time think on divorce.Against the Request how much time court can grant for proper thinking on divorce 4) what options left with my wife if i ask court for some more time 5) on what grounds wife can withdraw petition of MCD against my request for extension of time. Because her family is forcing me to sign second motion 6) can wife file case for contested divorce 7) What about 498a i have already made the complete payment related to alominy .The whole of doing this is to buy time for saving of marriage Please suggest