Wife not obeying her responsibilities what to do

I am Amit Kokare,a hindu. We got married 5 years back, and we have 4 years daughter. I'm engg in reputed Ltd company. My wife is BAMS,and she is house wife, she like stay ideal. My problem is my wife is not taking/responding to her role and responsibilities. From last five years i am cleaning toilet/bathroom, cleaning my own cloths on Sunday to Sunday, cleaning floor 1 bhk on holoday, keeping house neat and clean. When i insist or force her to above work, every time she give reason of not feeling well. Kitchen is always with bad Oder. House is always dirty, and when i ask for work she always says me that she will go to her fathers home. Also insisted her to look for maid, though my salary is less. So that house environment will happy and healthy. But she even didn't this. Even after many request time to time,she is not changing her nature. Because of her nature, I have lost my parents too. All the above thing I have shared with her parent too.