Had live-in relation with a girl but now she is refusing to marry

957 votes

Well frankly speaking you had a wife, you had two children. The time you decided to go out of that comfort zone, you actually started digging your own grave. If you hated your wife thats still okay personal difference of opinion does stand in the way, but still what definition of wife/mother will the two children carry with themselves, that itself is the biggest load the children are going through today.
You have spent money, energy on the 26 year old, she loves you and all that is fine. But isnt it your obligation to look at a person and think twice "Will she take a stand if push comes to shove" without that question being asked to yourself, spending any amount of money will not suffice.
As far as teaching a lesson is concerned, if you disclose the clippings and other aspects which you hold with yourself and you assume that their parents will sit quiet. Be assured that if this issue is taken to the Police then you are committing a very serious crime of Blackmailing.
For you the solution is :-
1. Yes, now whatever has happened has happened, the damage is done. Your wife even though has left you, has not filed any criminal and/or civil suits(Divorce, Maintenance) against you so that way you should be a hell lot grateful to her.
2. Dying is not an option because you have two children, survive for them. I Hope you have some attachment to them compared to the 26 year old girl.
3. You should not teach a lesson to anyone, in simple words Karma or as you might know What goes Around Comes Around, and openly speaking you have just got a taste of that. Learn from it and move on in life.

Dont take this as a spiritual talk. Because going in any negative manner right now will only lead to your own destruction, and that actually began far back when you decided to leave the current comfort zone you had(its time to correct and go in the proper direction). Children, you have them, you love them (i hope) survive for them, stay strong and Im not personally against love. Love these days has to be made on Rules and Terms and Conditions and you still need to be a good judge of character. Guts matter, Courage matters, people who dont have that dont last long. And legally, if you try to Blackmail or do something else, then dont be fearless. Fear the Law Upholding Authorities i.e. Police Officers.

I know you might be annoyed by this answer, but still i hope i get to make some sense in the above answer.
Thank You
Take Care

Advocate Mrinal Pillai LawRato

655 votes

Hello sir it's hard to believe that a girl being so close just refuses to marry you and rather marries a total stranger. Apart from this, going through your query I found out that she is a person of high hopes. May be there have been certain situations or she is doing it willingly. Yes there are a few things that you can do to make her come back legally.

Advocate Rohit Beaspal LawRato